So many of my days are made – by you. Today is one of them
A month or so ago a customer ordered a XIZOZU™ pendant and with the order came a note with this request:
I have been looking for many months for some type of personal symbol or sigil as a unique tattoo that would represent my struggles without being too mainstream, and without others having to know what it truly means. This would be the perfect beautiful tattoo to have on my arm…What you have created here is amazing. May I have your blessing?
Of course I said yes, without hesitation and sent her a larger reference image to make th artist’s work easier.
This photo arrived in my inbox this morning with another heartwarming note that filled both my heart and eyes.
This, this is what XIZOZU is…a beautiful source of both comfort and strength.
And for me.
What would your XIZOZU tattoo say? Of course you can express anything, but click to see the ones we’ve made so far:
This week’s eight things that are worth sharing with friends
Issue #3: Learn to Shift
Creating a life that’s more than standard! What I learned this week about the incredible change that can happen from small shifts.
- APPROACH: Whenever I give my OCD friend who loves to clean a hard time, she tells me I’m just compulsively messy. Touché. Imagine my glee when I learned we can all have tidy houses without donating entire days to cleaning the them! Wheeeee!
- TIME: Speaking of time not spent doing something, imagine what you could accomplish just by changing how you spend ten minutes a day? After spending 10 mintues reading One Hundred Blocks, I’ve been loosely tracking my day in ten minute blocks. If nothing else, this helped put the time I waste on social media into perspective. We made an easily printable form for you to try it yourself.
- GAZE: SpaceX is tackling one of the obstacles to life in the final frontier: sustainable transportation. Elon Musk hopes to launch his Tesla roadster into space early this week. No really.
- PERSPECTIVE: There’s so much that could be said about the work of Bernard Pras besides that it’s amazing in the actual meaning of the word. If you do the Facebook thing, check this video out. And also on Facebook this shifted view from the British Museum takes you into a 17th century Chinese Scroll. Gorgeous and mesmerizing. (Oh, wait we’re also on Facebook!)
- GROOVE: Drop a retro Nightshift vibe onto your next music playlist: Marvin Gaye and Jackie Wilson have a timeless soulful verve.
- STANCE: Wait, I changed my mind – and why it’s a good thing. Or, are our minds made up and nothing will change them.
- POSITION: Downward facing or upward facing, I still rarely do either of them correctly. Even so – a little free yoga is always good for realigning your body and your adjusting spirit.
- SITUATION: “I shifted my car into reverse when…” Nobody wins in an abusive realtionship, but I have nothing but respect for this chic right here…
Every life deserves a medal. Get yours.
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Just before Christmas I received an order for five XIZOZU: Loss of Wife, Loss of Sister, Loss of Daughter, Loss of Mother, Caregiver.
I got teary. Instantly.
It was impossible to miss the far-reaching impact that the passing of this one woman had in her world.
I was glad to create medals that would be reminders of each of those sacred connections and also containers for the love that could no longer be physically expressed. I poured all my comforting energy into each of those medals.
It’s easy to forget how deeply each of us touches so many others on a given day, in a given lifetime. As I packaged the order up for delivery I whispered a promise to myself to be better about valuing each of spaces I occupy in other people’s lives.
Have you thought about how many roles you fill in your everyday life? The list grows quickly once you start making it. Believe me.
Thanks for reading,
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Last week the two of us were having an emotionally intense conversation when she laid her hand ever so lightly on the three XIZOZU™ she was wearing, then, as if pushing some sort of activation button, pressed them against her breast bone. She lightly exhaled and as quickly lowered her hand back to the table and lifted her glass of ice tea to her lips. It was a gesture she and everyone else in the busy restaurant might have easily missed. But I got tingles.
The way she touched the medals she was wearing was so completely familiar. It’s something I had recently realized that I do often, sometimes absentmindedly as you might play with any jewelry, but often I do it with intention, as she just had.
I especially find my fingers on my XIZOZU™ when I’m wearing specific medals. Two pendants I wear often honor the loss of my father to suicide. Those I find I reach for them throughout the day when they’re dangling from my neck and when I connect skin to metal I feel a closeness to him and his memory. It’s comforting and quieting.
I thought it was just me. I love that it ‘s not.
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Without making me sound like more of a party animal than I actually am, a couple of weekends ago I wound up at two local parties on the same day. Both were casual outdoor gatherings commemorating summer’s passing. Someone was wearing a XIZOZU™ medals pendant at each of them.
Confession: I still (and will probably always) get a little thrill when I unexpectedly spot someone sporting XIZOZU™ pendants out in the wild.
At the first party the woman wore three classic bronze with black pendants close to her heart dangling from a leather cord. At the second the woman wore three similar medals but closer to her neck on a black wire choker.
Those two women were as uniquely opposite, at least on the surface, as two females can be, as were the medals the wore.
Yet they were both quite similar too. Both were equally and rightfully proud of what they had accomplished.
It was the best of times. It was the worst of times.
The first woman’s set honored overcoming challenges, the second woman’s set celebrated meeting them. Similar results, but with a small but significant difference.
Sometimes we choose our challenges, like deciding to run a marathon or buy a home. Here we need to focus our energy and summon our discipline to achieve these things.
Other times challenges appear in our paths uninvited, and we have no choice but to find a way through, or around them. Those hardships and traumatic episodes require us to fight for our selves, in the truest, deepest meaning possible, physically or mentally.
In each case, the work is hard. In both cases they deserve medals.
So do you.
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Monday’s post was pretty solemn and the number of people who reached out too extend their sympathy or share their own shattering experiences was beautiful.
That generous outpouring of positive energy inspired me to create this white square XIZOZU™ which I will be releasing soon. It’s is a special edition medal to remind us that when we come upon something positive or beautiful, we should honor it.
Wear this XIZOZU™ as a prompt to take those few extra minutes to truly appreciate when you discover something exquisite, whether it’s part of the physical world, an idea, or someone else’s heartwarming action. Let it be marvelous.
Notice the details and make it a gift to yourself by sitting with it alone.
Then by sharing it.
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I don’t know what your mind is like, but mine is a “what if?” mind. It’s a “how about?” mind. It’s a “why don’t we” mind. It’s a “do” mind.
If yours is that way too, you know what I mean. It’s blessing and a curse. Right?
Attempting meditation (which I’ve done repeatedly) is probably where I’ve racked up the most failures in my life. Trying to eat less cheese might be second. Of course I’ll try them both again because failure doesn’t really bother me. It’s good for me. It’s good for you too, like the occasional nap.
So yeah, my mind is always whirring without an off switch or a cord I can unplug. That mind, combined with a need—not desire—need to make things, is what led the creation of XIZOZU™.
And we all know where that led. It led me to…here. I’ll admit, “here” can be a tad stressful. Stressful in a good, challenging, satisfying way – but stressful all the same. Between the design, the marketing, the accounting, customer engagement, inventory, production planning, shipping, there’s always something that’s not getting done as quickly as I’d like. I spend days in a steady state of being two clock ticks away from freaking out.
Continue reading “Going Out of My Mind”
A month or two ago, while distracting myself—um, I mean—while diligently researching something on Vimeo, I stumbled across a film production company’s video about a woman I’d never heard of.
Continue reading “Who Is Ruthie Lindsey”
Summer Solstice. The longest day of the year and the official start of summer.
Yet today I found myself thinking about a brutally frigid morning a few winters ago. It was about eight o’clock, and, without exaggeration, eighteen degrees below zero outside. I shifted my car into reverse when the reflection of a woman moved across my rearview mirror. Continue reading “You Don’t Need a License to Stand Up for Yourself”
Sent this set to a buyer this morning.
The aspect of one’s life that any given XIZOZU™ honors is only identified on the inside of the hangtag. You can share it’s meaning if you choose. Or not.
You see, we deeply respect your privacy and are exceptional secret-keepers.