The Many Journeys on the Motherhood Path

When mothers day brings sorrowIn a couple of weeks we’ll be celebrating Mother’s Day, which may be the biggest breakfast-in-bed holiday of all time. No one deserves the recognition more than moms and we’re not only thankful, but in total freakin’ awe of every mum, mommy, mama, and mother out there! We applaud every marvelous women fortunate enough to spend the day “any way she wants,” encircled by her loving children—or at the very least surrounded by sweet bouquets and cards they sent.

But our larger mission is in supporting the woman who, for a host of reasons, won’t have giggling children fluffing her pillow and presenting her with a flower-adorned tray of fruit and pancakes. We want those women to remember, you’re not alone. You’ll be among countless women cradling more leaden emotions that are equally sacred.

We’re with you too. We understand. Your journey to motherhood might be winding and complicated. XIZOZU exist to hold space for you, wherever you are on your personal path. And to provide a peaceful point of strength during your fragile times.

These XIZOZU were created to embrace all the shapes of motherhood:

I Chose to Not Have ChildrenI Foster Parent
I Struggle with InfertilityI Raised My Siblings
I Lost a Child by MiscarriageI'm Raising My Grandchildren
I’m a Mother of A StillbornI Lost my Child
I’m a Single MotherI Lost my Daughter
I’m an Adoptive Parent I Lost my Son
I’m a Biological MotherI’m a Surrogate Mother

The Importance of Remembrance and Memorial Jewelry

Remembrance jewelry lets you honor your loved ones and keep them near to your heart

Yesterday’s post about my father’s suicide received a lot of positive attention both here on the blog and in conversations on Facebook.

It was wonderful to see the dialog about mental wellness and suicide open up around me, but what was equally striking was the number of private messages I received in which people privately expressed their experiences with suicide. Those who reached out via text and email wanted to share their thoughts and memories, but confidentially.

That’s exactly what XIZOZU’s all about. The ability to  honor an event or emotion, while still keeping it secret.

Personally I think it’s important to broaden the conversation about mental wellness, grief, trauma, and suicide, so I’ll talk about, or write about, my experience of losing my dad. Others aren’t there yet. I totally get that. Everyone processes grief differently and there’s no universal way to do it.

Above is one of the XIZOZU™ I will be likely wearing for the next few weeks. Its one I wear often. It honors the loss of a loved one through suicide. It’s where I can direct my affection, and sometimes draw  bit of strength, anytime I’m move to, especially when I touch it.

Honor your own achievements, challenges and loss with your won medals.

Get Yours

 

Poem: Evidence I

EVIDENCE I

	We'll need yours too

The first thing asked of 
his widow
is to surrender the only
fragile explanation he left her

which she does
without looking up

Politely the officer refolds the single sheet
careful to not add creases
that weren't already there
and slips it into a large brown envelope
where three other letters are hidden

Unopened
Mine among them

    Evidence
    They will be returned

    Standard procedure

    You know you may read yours
    before we take it

Father may I No No you may not You may never

Seems apparent, but still
we must rule out homicide
We'll need copies for the file

Evidence

I imagine a clerk with unruly hair
reading them
one at a time
mindlessly fussing with a hangnail
while the photocopier
replicates the tragedy
deciding for herself
who he loved the most