In A world with Octobers

“I’m so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.” ―  a famous quote from Anne of Green Gables. It’s a sentiment I share – especially living in what might be the undisputed capital of autumn. Vermont.

As beautiful as it is, October can also be a difficult month around here. It’s national observances include:

  • Breast Cancer Awareness Month
  • National Bullying Prevention Month
  • National Domestic Violence Awareness Month
  • Pregnancy and Infant loss Awareness month

Plus October 10th is both National Mental Health Day and my father’s birthday who was lost to suicide.

But truth is I, and most XIZOZU women don’t need a day or month to be made aware of these experiences – they are, or have been, these experiences. They have personal relationships with these and many other of life’s most gripping aspects. And we address, support and heal from them all year long.

So we use these decreed month-long banner-waving observances to celebrate the current triumphs of our tribe.

And there is a lot to celebrate! Here are just a few recent member triumphs (used anonymously, but still with permission):

  • one women left an abusive, soul-crushing nine year relationship,
  • another marked 8 years cancer free just yesterday!,
  • another made amends to a family member after years of what she described as alcohol-fueled emotional abuse,
  • another brought her sexual assault to the surface and shared it with her mother for the first time.

So yeah, October can be a mother of a month, but also a triumphant one!

I’ve also read the autumn is nature’s way of showing us how beautiful letting go can be. So keep rocking it ladies.

We are all here supporting and rooting for you! Stay on your path, no matter how difficult, and there will always be someone here keeping watch for you when you need to rest.

D. from USA. XIZOZU and the New Old Sister

Customers Share:

A few weeks ago I received a custom order request from a woman who was meeting her sixty-nine year-old sister for the first time. She wanted to bring her a gift of a custom XIZOZU to mark the occasion, privately. Of course being a story addict, I was captivated by the story and asked “D” if she would share some of the details of how this came to be. Here’s what she told me. She was gracious enough to permit me to share it with you.

My mother became pregnant while in nursing school in the late 1940s. When she graduated she went directly to a Catholic home for unwed mothers where she had the baby and gave it up for adoption. The baby, let’s call her Lisa, was raised by wonderful parents.

My mother assumed all records would be sealed forever but of course several years ago the law changed. Nobody in my mother’s family ever knew. AS it happened my brother is big into ancestry and uses an online site with a DNA service. Lisa was also in the system. Last year the website matched their DNA to be first degree relatives.

My mom had large family and I would have thought she would have been the last of her siblings this would have happened to. We had been communicating with Lisa trying to figure out which of our uncles or aunts would have been her parent. My brother and I were the only ones who knew at this point.

When the birth certificate was found and clearly showed my mom’s signature you could have knocked me over with a feather.

It’s 2017 and my ninety-year-old mother’s health is failing fast. My brother and I did talk to her about it and she really wanted nothing to do with it and it was not to be talked about to anybody else. Lisa eventually wrote my mom a wonderful letter and spoke with her briefly on the phone. Lisa wanted them to meet. My mom, a wonderful, popular woman with many friends, could not handle it at that time; she declined.

Ultimately I did convince my mom to meet with Lisa which I swore would be unbeknownst to anybody else. So the arrangements for a mother and daughter reunion were were made. Two days before they were to be together, face to face,  my mom passed away.

Since then I have stayed in communication with Lisa and my other siblings all now know. My sister and I are going to meet with her this summer and I wanted to bring her a gift.


Sisters meet their sister who was given to adoption in the 1940s.This is the custom XIZOZU™ created exclusively for this wonderful event. What D. doesn’t know is that in gratitude for her being so generous with her story, I’m sending one for her and her other sister as well. Only these three women ever have to know the true meaning behind the piece.

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M. from Florida

Customers Share:

Trigger warning: Some of our customers have experienced unfathomable situations. Please be aware that certain stories might be upsetting and difficult to read.

I was 14 when my mother was diagnosed with end stage liver disease and we became aware that she needed a liver transplant to survive . Fortunately with a few bumps and bruises she received her transplant within a year and a half but during that time , I became ill and started my journey with mental illness.

During my freshman year of college, I was raped and then I ended up in an abusive relationship that lasted three years and took strategic planning to leave and that was 15 years ago. 

Because of my history, I’ve now developed PTSD, which I’m currently trying to heal from along with managing the rest of my medical conditions: depression, anxiety, panic attacks , ADD and chronic insomnia. But I keep on trucking.

I’ve learned even when you think you can’t, you can.

M. from Florida
“XIZOZU is being able to share my experiences with others but without having to reveal it to everyone.”

Resources that M. would like to share with you:

U.S. Government Information on Organ Donation and Transplantation

The Younique Foundation’s Haven Retreat for female survivors of childhood sexual abuse


How about you? What makes you indestructible? Tell us here.

Nellie in Tennessee

Customers Share:

Trigger warning: Some of our customers have experienced unfathomable situations. Please be aware that certain stories might be upsetting and difficult to read.

I paid off ALL my credit cards!!!! Four of them! Everyone told me I should declare bankruptcy.I didn’t want to do that. I wanted to take responsibility for my actions. I had gotten into debt and I wanted to get out f it. I went to a credit counseling service and they helped me work out a budget. I worked two jobs for more than three years but I paid off every penny!!! Then I paid off my car four months early! I feel lighter than I have felt in fifteen years! I have a XIZOZU on ny keychain to always remind me of how strong and willful I can be when I want to. I am still working a second job (not as many hours as before) but ALL of the money from that job is going to a house down-payment savings account!!! I expect to buy my own home, by myself before my 36th birthday! I’ll get the Bought My Own Home medal when I do! Wish me luck!

Nellie in Tennessee


How about you? What makes you indestructible? Tell us here.

The Tattoo and The Art of Support.

So many of my days are made – by you. Today is one of them

A month or so ago a customer ordered a XIZOZU™ pendant and with the order came a note with this request:

I have been looking for many months for some type of personal symbol or sigil as a unique tattoo that would represent my struggles without being too mainstream, and without others having to know what it truly means. This would be the perfect beautiful tattoo to have on my arm…What you have created here is amazing. May I have your blessing?

Of course I said yes, without hesitation and sent her a larger reference image to make th artist’s work easier.

This photo arrived in my inbox this morning with another heartwarming note that filled both my heart and eyes.

Tattoo designs that let provide comfort and strength

This, this is what XIZOZU is…a beautiful source of both comfort and strength.

For you.

And for me.

What would your XIZOZU tattoo say? Of course you can express anything, but click to see the ones we’ve made so far:

Available Medals

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Eva in Seattle

Customers Share:

Trigger warning: Some of our customers have experienced unfathomable situations. Please be aware that certain stories might be upsetting and difficult to read.

The worst part was feeling like it was my fault. Even the questions from my family made me feel like somehow I asked for my brother’s friend to rape me. It’s taken all of the past eleven years to let go of the guilt. My XIZOZU is how I give myself a hug and say f*ck you to people who want to blame me.

Eva in Seattle


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J. in Ohio

Customers Share:

Trigger warning: Some of our customers have experienced unfathomable situations. Please be aware that certain stories might be upsetting and difficult to read.

I was sexually assaulted by my boss my first week at the job. I didn’t tell anyone because I really needed that job and I was afraid he would fire me. (I’m a single parent)  That was five years ago and I’ve been promoted three times so that we’re at the same management level now. Thankfully we work in different buildings and I don’t have to seem him. I wear my XIZOZU as my reminder that no one else will ever have power over me and that I control my life.

J. in Ohio


How about you? What makes you indestructible? Tell us here.

Barbara in Maryland

Customers Share:

Trigger warning: Some of our customers have experienced unfathomable situations. Please be aware that certain stories might be upsetting and difficult to read.

When my husband died unexpectedly, I stopped breathing too. I thought I’d never be able to breathe again. The only feeling I felt was pain. All I could do was sleep but not in our bed, on the couch. I slept for days. It was months before I was able to hear his name and not collapse into my grief. People tried very hard to make me feel better and I appreciated them trying to support me. I wish they understood that I couldn’t be automatically pushed back into happiness and that pretending I wasn’t hurting only made me hurt more. It took me more than a year to get to a place where I wasn’t always anchored down by my grief. My sister gave me a XIZOZU to honor his passing and when I touch it I feel just a little closer to him. Thank you for that. There are still days when it feels like work to put one foot in front of the other but they’re less and less. And there are some days when I can see him with my heart, and I smile instead of weep. 

Barbara in Maryland


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The Nudge I Needed

I’ll be honest – launching XIZOZU™ has been among the most rewarding and the most challenging projects I’ve ever undertaken. The times when doubts creep in and I wonder…is this really a thing?…are thankfully few, but the second-guessing does happen. Then I get an email like this…

2/10/18

My XIZOZU arrived yesterday, it was a gift from my mother-in-law and I haven’t taken it off. It’s like a source of renewable energy that I can draw from whenever my grief weakens me…I love that no one else knows its meaning. People just think it’s beautiful. I do too. Thank you. Thank you.

M. in Massachusetts

…and I know exactly where my path is leading. Thank you universe.

Happy Customers. Happy Me.

So thankful

It’s Friday.  It’s been an insane but exciting week. The first of the “official” XIZOZU orders were sent out into the wilderness this past week.  Receiving these texts of happiness was a delight for me!

“I love how my new XIZOZU medal feels. It’s very comforting!” 

“It tickles my heart when I think of its meaning.”

“I never mentioned that chains or ropes usually pull on my neck but this choker is sooo comfy!”

The first XIZOZU Medals were delivered this week!

Knowing that XIZOZU Medals are bringing joy and comfort to those who wear them, means everything! Thank you.